The (New and Improved) Loving Dominant

My new Dom and I are reading this book together. He self describes as a Daddy Dom, and was attracted by the title when I found it. Although he has experience he has no formal training and is always open to learning more. I am a "wannabe sub" according to Him since I have not yet begun my training, and I am reading as much as I can, which as my loving Dom he supports. We are both really enjoying John Warrens style of writing, which is clear,, frank, loving and funny. In particular for me, Libby's section on what being a submissive means to her brought tears to my eyes as it described my feelings so well even though I have not started my training. Libby please write a book for us subs! Along with the play suggestions and explanations, this book emphasizes so well the unique and deep D/s relationship dynamic. Even as new couple, I am experiencing one of the most profound relationships of my life. The D/s relationship allows nothing to be hidden. Highly recommend this book.

I picked up a copy of the first edition of The Loving Dominant in the nineties after, of all things, doing a search on "loving" and "dominant", having come to feel that there must be *someone* out there with a perspective compatible with my own but seemingly lacking (to my eyes) in the local D/s scene where I lived at the time. This book, in its frankness and focus on an ethical and loving approach to D/s, was a welcome affirmation at a very formative time. What's more, it served as a shorthand for communication with people "on the other side of the slash" in sharing broad perspectives as to the important role of love, for many, in realizing deep, positive, connected D/s relationships. I consider it a must-read for anyone drawn to the lifestyle in some fashion, whether dominant or submissive by nature.

*The Loving Dominant*, by John and Libby Warren, is one of those titles that inevitably come up in any discussion of BDSM nonfiction, and for good reason. John Warren is an experienced player with an engaging and highly personal writing style. His prose is colorful and easy to read, and he fills the pages with amusing, arousing, inspiring, and illustrative anecdotes from his own experience and that of his friends. Unlike many authors, Warren explores the psychological landscape and possibilities of BDSM as extensively as the physical skills and techniques; being myself far more drawn to the mental and emotional aspects of dominance and submission than to the pleasures of kinky sex per se, I was delighted to find a book with this particular emphasis. Although I am a submissive with no interest in switching, I appreciate the existence of a book like this addressed directly to dominants and their special needs and concerns. My husband/Master has sworn by this book for years, as have many of my dominant friends. I do have a few minor quibbles, however. Although I enjoyed the psychological emphasis in Warren's exploration of BDSM, I was rather disappointed that his focus was much more on the experience of play than the dynamics of a D/s relationship outside the bedroom or dungeon. I'd hoped a book with a title like *The Loving Dominant* would deal more with the kind of relationship that I'm in, a lifetime commitment in which our D/s dynamic enters (in theory at least) as much into the most mundane concerns of life as into our lovemaking. (Of course, since 24/7 relationships are relatively rare even in the world of BDSM, few potential readers may see this as a drawback.) I was also disappointed by the portion of the book written by Libby, supposedly exploring her own experiences and mindset as a submissive woman. I found very little in her words that I could relate to, which is fine - Libby and I are two separate people. I just hate to think that a dominant might read this and think that the motivations and desires of which she speaks are somehow essential to, or even typical of, the submissive mindset. I was particularly annoyed by the section in which John Warren explores the reasons a person might want to be submissive. I'm sure there are some submissives out there who are powerful people in their everyday life who enjoy letting go of responsibility for a little while, and I'm sure there are some who take pleasure in submission because it relieves them of feelings of guilt about enjoying their sexuality, but I don't fit into either of those groups and I'm tired of listening to people try to gloss over the complexity of my nature with pat explanations. On the whole, if you're willing to overlook a few weak passages (and some very poor editing), you'll find *The Loving Dominant* a worthy addition to your BDSM bookshelf.

"Almost all men will loudly claim that they are dominant; most are wrong." This is an AMAZING book. Thorough and detailed and practical. Mr. Warren is very knowledgeable and relates personal experiences and events (anonymously) while passing off to others who have more knowledge when he feels his is not quite up to his high standards. He is very conscious and concerned with safety but keeps his opinions labeled as such.

if you want to learn about the BDSM Lifestyle, this is ONE of the books to read

Finally a book that isn't just BDSM 101. This book really closes the divide on creative instinct...gathering ideas and building the frame of mind needed once you have your submissive. Passing the basics,(which most books spend nearly 50% of the material on and thank God this one just has a list of references if you need the basics), I felt I could finally get a bit more of a hold on the PRACTICE of bdsm, not just the knowledge. A great book if you are ready to apply the heart of bdsm with the practice. Beautiful book, thank you.

It's a good read as a way to become informed about the BDSM world, and Warren does a good job at explaining several concepts. However, the editing is quite appalling. I am not even half way through the book and i have found several sentences that don't make sense due to errors that should have been edited. But on the whole, a good read.

Awesome book for an awesome price. Delivery took a while tho

Livro muito bom Porém a leitura é um pouco ruim por causa do tamanho da fonte. De resto, nada a reclamar, apenas elogios😉

The style has a bit of amateur vibe. The content is great. Did not like the chapter about spirituality. Lacked some pictures in shibari chapter.

Well recommended, with a surprising amount of detail throughout the content. Buy this book first and reach out further if your particular niche is not covered fully here.

It is a Nice read for those serious enough about BDSM to spend the time to read about it. The author has a lot of experience and that book will definetly help you in your journey.